Anger and sex

It is often the natural emotional result of painful self judgment. Why do we get angry over the smallest things and blow up out anger and sex proportion with what is happening?

Why do we get angry at the people we love and care about? Anger can appear to be irrational but if you learn to look below the surface you will find the real causes of anger. When you find the real causes you can successfully overcome your anger. Jack is upper middle class, educated, and came from a good home. He loves and respects his wife Emily and adores his kids. There’s no apparent reason for Jack to have angry outbursts but he does. Jack was driving his wife and two kids to the beach town for a planned family vacation.

Then in an effort to tidy up the car his wife Emily grabbed some trash from the center console to put in a bag. There was such venom in his voice that Emily pulled away and sat quietly in her seat not moving. The boys in the back seat went silent as well. Jack was surprised at his own outburst and proceeded to judge himself for acting irrationally. From the self judgment he felt small, stupid, and guilty. This is not how a well educated, successful, family man is supposed to behave.

Wanting the whole incident, and how he felt about it, to just go away, he attempted to ignore it. In trying to bury it he didn’t apologize to Emily. The inner judge in his mind remembered though, and kept judging himself for his uncontrolled anger. This wasn’t the first time that Jack got angry like this. This is just part of a pattern.